Posted by len on October 16, 2001 at 06:31:03:
In Reply to: teen daughter asked to be spanked posted by Kathy on October 12, 2001 at 14:59:17:
I think there is a little manipulation going on here. I would read between the lines. If she is asking for this, then you can bet it is the punishment she thinks will be least effective. She figures it will be done and over and she can go on her merry little way. I realize discipline is to learn but the reason for punishment is also to show that there are consequences to actions. The consequences should cause enough unpleasantness for her to discourage her from doing it again. Therefore if she wants to set the guidelines it will probably be the least effective method. I agree it is one thing to spank a 9-10 year old. If grounded for a lengthy period of time the discipline would lose its effectiveness as the child would forget what they even did. Besides teenage infractions are usually a little more serious than a pre-teen. Therefore the punishment should be more severe. I knew a girl years ago who said she would rather have been spanked than grounded for just that reason, it would be over and done quickly and she could be off to see her friends. I think sticking to your guns would be the best thing.